Monday, September 19, 2011

Yeah...great start to my week...

Well, I don't have anyone to talk to about it, so here I am.
Yesterday, Sweetness made a joke that I thought was in bad taste. Normally I don't care, I'll blow it off and laugh about it anyway. But it happened at an inopportune time. I don't know if I blew things out of porportion or if my reaction was wrong. I basically let him know I didn't like what he did and then just told him to have a nice day. So that evening he asked if I was OK and if there was anything I wanted to talk about. I said there wasn't and he said ok. I thought that was that. He kept giving me one word answers so I told him if HE needed to talk I was there. He said he didn't want to. This morning was the same thing. He was being so short with me. Finally I told him to be out with it. He said it was him and that I shouldn't worry about it. I said I wouldn't push him to tell me, but I am here if he changes his mind. He said: "I already decided I wasn't going to talk to you about it. I'm going to have an amazing day. I suggest you do the same."
That hurt me alot. So I told him I'm going to leave him alone for a few days and if he needs me, he knows where to find me. I have a feeling he's going to break up with me. I don't know why. I just feel it.


screamingnspace said...

sorry to hear about this! maybe he's just mad about the way you handled it. i seriously don't understand boys lately! good luck, and you know we followers are here for you

Velvet_Heaven said...

Thanks! Just when I thought I had a handle on this boy, he proves me otherwise :/

max xavier said...

Boys have very fragile egos. And most of them are socially inept. So you may have hurt his feelings with your abruptness.

Perhaps, maybe put the first foot forward and apologize. Maybe a "Im sorry if you feel I didnt handle that properly. Would you like to discus this with me, so it doesnt happen again in the future?" kinda thing..

My grandfather used to tell me,"You can be right, or you can be in love.Your call." whenever I would have an argument with a boy. It sucks a bit to apologize first, but it sets a tone for the future. If he knows you can be big enough to apologize, and open communication, then he can,too. And if you really think he will break up with you, anyway, you dont have ANYTHING to lose by trying.

Thinking of you.

Velvet_Heaven said...

Thank you, max! I did apologize. He seemed indifferent to it. I tried opening the door of coummunication and that's when he said he didn't want to talk to me about it. So, for me, the only logical thing was to just give him space. If in that time he misses me, he knows where he should be and where I am. If he doesn't, if he lets whatever he's feeling take over and keep him angry, then he has the option to leave.

Just Two Chicks said...

Hmmm, well, it's been a few days since you've written this, I think, so hopefully things are positive?!?! I hope they are... ahhh, new love. It's SO hard because you're still learning each other.